Still puttering along after all these years....

So I've now been married for more than half my life, and to the same man no less.   And when asked if I'd do it again my response is always a big  "YES!"  Not that its been all sunshine and roses, cause only the dating period is that, right ladies?  No, its because he's my best friend, and over the years we have learned certain things that has made this relationship work when others seem to be falling apart around us.   What are those little tidbits, you ask?  I'll share a few with you, as long as you promise not to take me or yourself too seriously.

Number one rule:  Don't marry for money...believe me when I say even those with horrible credit can borrow cheaper.   My man has expensive taste,  hey he married me didn't he.   Nah, for the most part, we agree on money...or chose to agree to disagree on money.   He likes his gadgets and gizmos and spends a fortune on them.   I spend a fortune saving him money. (read "I'm not cheap, I'm selective) for a better explanation. 

Rule number two:  Marriage is a mutual relationship ONLY if both parties know when to be mute.   This here rule really needs no explaining...but here are some things you should never ask your spouse:

1. What are you thinking?  (believe me, you don't want to know....and if he/she wants to tell you they will, most likely in a tone you don't like)

2. Do I look fat?  there is NEVER a good answer to this unless your are a super model, so don't ask.

3. Do you love me?  Um if he/she doesn't say it, you might not want to rock that boat.   I'm  a firm believer that you should tell your loved one how you feel often so as they don't ever doubt it.

4. Do you think they are sexy, hotter, prettier, etc than me?  Again this is one that should never be asked!

5. What would you do if I died?  They would be devistated and never recover!  Go on believing this, and don't think about it.  LOL  You'll be dead anyway and won't care after that.

And my final tidbit of information to impart is....  If you want a spouse to pay strict attention to what you say, you need to talk in your sleep .   Otherwise they are most likely tuning you out.   This can work to your advantage though.   I don't know how many times I've said.  "But dear I told you about this or that"  and he honestly can't say weather I did or not.  

So here is looking at another 20 years!  Just think hon, at least half of them will be without kids.  I love you Paul, thanks for being my partner in crime all these years.

Meli